HAVE A PLEASURABLE PURIM

Purim is a time of Simcha—of joy for the entire family. Your child with sensory disorder, anxiety, or other special needs can also find a way to enjoy the excitement of Purim. Preparation is the key.

Use coping strategies that have worked well for your child in the past. Refrain from trying new strategies to help your child cope with the sensations of the holiday—your child can become overwhelmed with new stimuli and new approaches for coping

Introduce your child to Purim by playing Purim-themed music, reading illustrated Purim books, and talking about the excitement of dressing up and delivering Mishloach Manos. Take your child to visit stores that have costumes on display, or browse catalogs or ads which feature many different types of costumes. Play dress up at home to help your child feel comfortable with the notion of seeing people in costume. Explain that costumes are made up of clothing and props, nothing magical or scary.

Masks can be especially scary to children, as they transform even close family members into unrecognizable beings. Find masks that your child is comfortable with and have him watch in the mirror as he puts it on your face and then his. Playing ‘peek-a-boo with a mask can also expose them to the concept. Let him create a mask of his own to play with.

Costumes can be a major issue for children with autism or sensory issues. If it is rough, itchy, or otherwise uncomfortable, they will react badly to wearing it. If your child is overly sensitive, a themed T-shirt or hat will work just as well.

Face paint, masks, helmets, and other accessories can be a wonderful sensation for sensory seekers, but are a definite no-no for sensory avoiders.

Many children have difficulties with new experiences such as delivering Mishloach Manos to ‘strangers’. Role play with family members. Practice knocking on the door, making the delivery, and accepting treats, money, or return packages.

Many children respond best to schedules. Create an itinerary beforehand, review it with your child, and try to stick to it. Talk to your relatives and neighbors ahead of time about the best way to approach your child.

And most important, discuss with your child the difference between Purim and the rest of the year, making sure that he understands that at other times he may not knock on strangers doors.

After Purim, write yourself a note about how your child fared—what upset him, what he enjoyed the most, how much he itched and squirmed in his costume. This will help make next year’s experience that much happier for the entire family!